Many couples want to have a baby but can’t have their own. It may be because of their age, health condition, or due to the fact that they’re same-gender couples, they often get to choose between two options: adoption or surrogacy.
When they choose surrogacy, they often get a chance to use the father’s biological material and make the baby at least half theirs, so it seems to be the best option for them. But the problem is, it’s not so easy to find a woman who will agree with all the conditions, deliver their child, and then give the baby away with no second thoughts. There’s always a chance that the surrogate mother will say that she wants to keep the baby and intended parents will have to fight for custody. Let’s take a look at 15 stories where this exact thing happened.
15. Refused To Give The Baby To An LGBT Couple
Today, many LGBT couples who want to have kids find a woman who’ll carry the child for them. In this story, the gay couple arranged everything correctly and when the baby was born, they were surprised to learn that the woman didn’t want to give the child to them because she didn’t believe two men could raise them. The couple had to take the issue to court and it ruled in their favor.
14. Said That The Baby’s Parents Weren’t “Natural”
Another woman also was carrying a baby for a gay couple, but she didn’t know about it because the men didn’t tell her the whole truth when they were arranging the papers. When she learned everything, this woman decided that she didn’t want to proceed with giving the baby to the gay couple, claiming that they weren’t “natural parents.”
Luckily for the intended parents, they also managed to finally get full custody.
13. Not Only Kept The Baby, But Also Made Them Pay Child Support
The court doesn’t always rule in favor of intended parents in case a surrogate mother changes her mind. Sometimes, the baby is left with the mother who gave birth and in rare cases the court even rules that this mother has to receive child support from the intended parents.
In the situation, we’re discussing it happened because the surrogate’s egg and the intended father’s sperm were used, so she legally had rights for the baby.
12. Said That She Had Terminated Her Pregnancy
When a woman decides to become a surrogate mother, she rarely thinks about how she’s going to deal with it. This woman didn’t think either and, when she felt the bond with the growing fetus, she realized that she could never give the baby away. She decided to tell the intended parents that she had terminated the pregnancy to get them out of the picture. We can only imagine their devastation when she broke the news and when they learned that it was false.
11. Didn’t Want To Give The Baby And Called Them Racists
A couple from Iowa had been dreaming of having a child, but since they couldn’t have one on their own, they decided to find a surrogate mother. They were happy to pay for her services and did everything right, but they evidently came across the wrong woman. She didn’t only want to get as much money as possible from them. She also threatened to terminate her pregnancy if her conditions weren’t met and she eventually called them racists and refused to give the child away.
10. Bonded So Much, She Wouldn’t Give Up The Babies
For another couple, everything seemed to be fine. But as soon as their twins were born, the surrogate mother flat out refused to give the babies away. She didn’t even want the money the couple offered for her services and said that the twins weren’t for sale. Even though she had no biological connection to the babies, she still had a legal right to keep them because she gave birth, so the couple had to fight for custody in court.
9. The Court Restored Her Parenting Rights
Back in the 1980s, a nasty court battle occurred in New York, due to which it became illegal to use surrogate services in the state. Back then, the surrogate was artificially inseminated with the intended father’s sperm and when she gave birth, she refused to give the baby to the couple. As a result, the Supreme Court restored her parental rights but granted custody to the baby’s biological father.
8. Felt Guilty For Leaving The Baby Behind
For Wendy and the couple for whom she was carrying a baby, everything went smoothly at first. To avoid bonding with the baby too much, she even refused to bring them to the chest when they were born. But she had to do it because the little one was crying incessantly. The bonding happened immediately and Wendy felt guilty for giving her baby away (biologically, it was partially hers).
7. Didn’t Give Her Baby Until All Expenses Were Paid
The relationship between this surrogate mother and the intended parents went sour pretty quickly. The woman stated that the couple didn’t pay all her medical expenses and refused to sign the papers to grant them custody until they gave her the money she wanted. It took the whole four days to complete everything and finally take the newborn child home.
6. Surrogacy Broke Her Heart
The woman who shared her surrogacy experience on Huffpost initially just wanted to help a gay couple to have the child they wanted so much, but she didn’t know that the whole experience of giving the baby away would eventually break her heart. “Shortly after giving birth, my relationship with my partner ended, and I began to realize just how much surrogacy had changed me,” she said.
5. Surrogate Who Fell In Love With The Intended Father
This story comes not from the surrogate, but from the intended mother, for whom the whole experience became life-changing in a negative sense of this word. The surrogate mother and her partner ended up falling in love with each other and the intended mother was cut out of their life. We can only imagine how she feels knowing that her ex raises their child with that woman and she has to start anew.
4. Just Said That The Baby Had Passed
This woman didn’t lie to keep the baby because she loved them too much. She did it to try to sell this innocent brand new human being to other people. Needless to say, the intended parents were devastated to learn that their child had passed, but they must have been terrified to later find out that they were alive and three other couples were bidding to get them. Thankfully, the police finally found the woman and arrested her for fraud.
3. Thought She Could Keep The Baby Because She Gave Birth
Sometimes, when a surrogate mother gives birth to a baby, she feels like she just can’t give them away. It happens because her body doesn’t know that she wasn’t intended to be a mother and her instinct kicks in. It probably happened to a woman who confessed, “The parents don’t know I’m planning on keeping their baby. I’m the one giving birth. I should be allowed to raise them.”
We don’t know how this story ended, but it looks nasty.
2. Claimed The Baby Back Because Of The Mother’s Criminal Past
Everything was going great for this Michigan couple who dreamed of having a baby and found a woman who agreed to become a surrogate for them and gave birth to their twins. But only a month after the babies were born, the birth mother demanded to take them back because she learned that the intended mother had a criminal past and a history of mental illness. The woman claimed that she had to do it because she didn’t feel comfortable leaving the twins with this couple.
1. Didn’t Even Announce That The Baby Had Arrived
The baby girl you see in the photo was intended to be raised by Barbara and David, but their surrogate (and egg donor) Jamie refused to give her to them. She cut off contact with the couple long before birth and didn’t even tell them that she delivered the baby. Since David was the girl’s biological father, only he gained visitation rights.
According to an article on Mama Mia, the couple still fights for full custody and hopes that the girl will eventually live with them.